I’M NOT OK….YOU ARE OK!!!

Today morning I was doing some work & listening to “Kunti kumari” - a private song sung by the great legend Ghantasala about the agonising pain of ‘Kunti’ departing with her just born child from Lord ‘Suryadev’ due to the wish given to her by sage ‘Durvasa’ and now she has to relinquish the child as she is still unmarried and cannot keep her child. So she puts him in a basket & leaves it in a river…this is the story of “Karna” as we all know….I just thought how bad Karna would have felt when during the Kurushetra war, Kunti comes to him & reveals that he is her son, may be only with the aim of asking him to promise not to harm her other five sons “Pandavas” in the war!

I hear many people complaining that their life is too boring or that it sucks! That they have nothing to cheer up as they cannot do what they wanted to or reach their goals or destinations, or that fate had played a nasty game with them or that their life has become so monotonous & so on…..

A connection could be found for all the gloominess in our lives….If we look at even our epics like Ramayana & Mahabharatha, it will be definitely be an eye-opener that even great kings, warriors & great women were subjected to very bad situations and suffered a lot…..Even the Almighty when born as human “Rama” has to take tough test in his life…So is the same with “Jesus” who took the suffering of people upon him....or for that matter if we think, we realize that there is no soul ever who escaped suffering……

Pain & suffering are inevitable in our life. As it’s said that good & bad, beauty & ugly, divine & evil, happy & sorrow are the two sides of a coin…One cannot live without the other, both are required to maintain the balance of our lives… and like day & night comes so are the phases of sadness & happiness in our lives…We cannot cherish pleasures if we don’t know the what melancholy is…cannot know what it is to have a bowl full of rice if we don’t know what hunger is!

During any suffering the question that ,we often put to ourselves “WHY ONLY ME?” always has answers….It’s not just only you…If we look around we realize that every one asks this same question to themselves…only that we don’t know it! So never feel it’s only you who are suffering and that only your life is in chaos & every body is fine, happily enjoying their lives!

“Connecting with SELF” is the only solution for all our worries. Even in the worst of situations don’t loose confidence on yourself….Stick to it! Be aware that this bad phase too shall pass…Just hold on & keep your peace…Meditate or do any work that calms your mind, like listening to music or reading books or talking to friends, whatever that brings a smile to your face…

Cultivate”CONTENTMENT” and make it blossom & find the wonder it brings to our lives!

If we are one “Connected with SELF” & “CONTENDED”, we never ever say   

"I' M NOT OK...YOU ARE OK..."

Instead, we say

"I'M OK...YOU ARE OK..."                                     

                                                                                                                                                         

In the Circus

Trring……Trring……….

The school bell rings.Eight yr-old Ravi runs very fast & reaches the school gate.Two minutes later,the gate is closed.Ravi stands outside the closed gate & watches the students going into their classrooms .He sighs heavily & walks to the nearby teashop where he works as a cleaner for a meager Rs.300 p.m. & begins to wash & clean used glasses.

Ravi’s mother is dead & his father,a drunkard, always beats him up & takes away his hard-earned money which he wishes to save & join in school.Once,a circus comes to his city.He listens to school children talking about clowns,various feats performed etc. & longs to see it.One evening after returning from work,he goes to the circus place & tries to take a glimpse of what’s going inside through the big curtains.

Few minutes past…a heavy hand lands on his shoulders & he looks up…It’s the circus master.Seeing his torn dress & untidy face,the circus master asks him if he would like to work in circus & offers him to pay Rs.1000 p.m.Ravi is excited.He can save lot of money & go to school…wear uniform… make friends… study very hard… become a big & great man one day.His dream is going to be fulfilled.He readily agrees.

Working in circus was not so easy.Lot of work to do…brooming & moping the big floors,washing utensils & clothes,massaging the circus master’s body & many more things to do.He even cannot go home…got very less food to eat.He was very tired & exhausted all times but his dream kept him going.Only one relief was that he had made friends with a girl of his same age named Diya who used to perform feats in the circus. She used to teach him few tricks & feats.

Oneday Diya happily comes to him & says that the next day she is leaving to Mumbai with a man who is circus master’s friend & that there she can learn to dance & also can go to school.Both the friends jump with joy & dance merrily.Ravi wishes his dream too to come true soon.Diya bids him farewell the next day & leaves with the man unknowingly that she has been sold into trafficking.Now Ravi feels all alone. Few days passed…Ravi was cleaning the floor.He sees the tall rope ladder & thinks of doing a feat which Diya often did.Looking to his sides & confirming that none is around,he quickly climbs the ladder & tries to imitate the feat…… Thud…..Ravi misplaces his leg & crashes to ground.Blood flows beneath his head…He is surrounded by people.He looks at the high ceiling of the circus & sees his dream disappearing.

P.S. Friends,Yesterday(18th Apr,2011)Supreme Court banned the employment of children in circuses based on a petition filed by the“Bachpan Bachao Andolan”& directed the Union Govt. to take immediate steps to rescue all the children engaged in circuses.It said that mostly children are sold to circus owners either by agents or relatives or by parents getting lured of promises like high salaries & luxurious life.But in reality,the children are subjected to very harsh treatment depriving them of even the basic needs like food & water,forcefully detained with no access to their family,some instances of sexual abuse on daily basis,as well as physical & emotional abuse.Most of them are later put into child trafficking.Next time if you got to circus don’t cheer happily & clap If u see a child performing. Remember that their basic fundamental right of ‘right to education’ under Art.21A & their freedom is being violated.Call a nearby police station & help that boy or girl out of that place.

India's disappearing Girls

"BETTER 500 NOW THAN 50000 LATER"

Can u guess what this caption is about?It's an add suggesting to prospective parents that spending Rs.500 now on a test to confirm the foetus was better than spending many times more for a dowry later.These kinds of adds were very common those days when there was no legislation in place banning abortions of female foetus.Thanks to the efforts of group of activists whose campaign against the use of medical technology for sex detection & selection which culminated in making the law banning these tests.
BUT HAS THAT REALLY PREVENTED THE FEMALE FOETICIDE???

Better u check this....
I was shocked to read this in today's morning paper.
Though the sex ratio has gradually crept up from933 women to 1000 men in 2001 to 940 women to 1000 men in 2011,the preliminary figures released by Census office for 2011 shows some shocking facts...In the age group of 0-6,the no. of girls to every 1000 boys is just 914,even lower than the 927 of 2001 census!!!Why has this happened???
India!!! Atleast Wake Up now!!!
Save our girl child.Are u not seeing the ill effects of increasing gap between male to female sex ratio!?Just count how many of our male cousins are still bachelors unable to find a suitable girl?This is just one small example.

Who should we choose-God or Mother?

Dear folks,

This morning, when i was having my cup of hot coffee standing at my bedroom's balcony,i happened to see a young mother nursing her months-old baby.
The care with which she was holding her cute little baby...the love & affection she is showing...
I could feel the happiness she was experiencing.........

If i ask you a very simple question- Who is more great, God or Mother? What would your answer be? It's not that simple as it seems to be. Isn't it!

As a little child when i was giving lot of trouble to my mother, my grandma took to me into her arms & told me that i have to listen to what my ma says because god will get angry if i don't listen to her & don't give me chocolates.For fear of loosing chocos, i began to listen to my mom.

When i was in school, i had an elocution competition on the topic 'Mom & Me'.My father helped me in preparation.He told me 'god created mother as he cannot be present at every place'.I liked the sentence & used it.I never thought seriously about it.I just wanted to win the event & i won.

If u ask me now,I would definitely say
'Mother is very great...great than even the god who created her'.
I would add a little bit to what my father said on that day....

God created mother not just because he cannot be present everywhere.
God created mother because even he cannot do what all a mother can do for her child.
Friends,
just go back into your memory lane & find for yourself.
Your mother...she just brushed all priorities of her life aside only to look after u, to care for u.It's not enough if we just feel the need of wishing our mother only on mother's day.

We should think of how we can make our mother feel happy every other day.

The hands are searching in vaccum

Friends,
In this competitive world, we are moving very fast & working day & night to make a place for
our self. We are successful position-wise & money-wise.
BUT...
How far are we successful as son or a daughter to our parents? Is only providing them comforts of life is all the responsibility we have?Don't you think we have to give them what they want 'most' at this time of their life...Little time from us....just to wish them,to talk to them.
This is for all we guys & gals out there who are very very busy with their own world....

Take time....to hold those hands
The same old hands, recognise
those hands that put all their work aside
to care for you when you were a kid, to feed your tiny mouth,
to make you walk on your feet,

what not have those hands done for you?
they punished you when you erred,
they patted on your shoulder when you won,
they holded your hands when you were depressed,
they nursed you when you were ill,
wiped your tears when you cried,
spent every hard earned penny on you,
What not have those hands done for you?

Remember.....
as a new born you always searched in vacuum with your tiny little fingers....
You found....
you found the warmth of a caring hand
you could rest peacefully in those strong hands

Remember......
it's only you who left those hands as soon as you grew.....

Now...
Those strong hands have become old working & working only for you...
they are now searching in vacuum.....
for a hand to hold them....
they are very fragile
trembling with no support
'Hand stick!!!???'....god save you from hell...

My friend, It's high time for you to decide......
Whether to ignore or hold the hand...
Leave them for their fate or
Make them feel the same warmth you experienced as a child.

BALL IS IN YOUR COURT.

Life is precious

Life is but a bundle of emotions.Happy,sorrow,ecstasy etc.Emotions are not born out of isolation but are born out of the situations we undergo.People around us are also a factor to it.They not only say about things which makes us happy but also which can make us feel sick & sad.
For example QUESTIONS!!!
People put us through a lot of questions many times.Though we may not be responsible to answer them all the time but these questions do make us feel very awkward.Those who put these Q 's may just feel it very normal or just because they are concerned about us.But sometimes,some Q's just really hurts us & we keep searching for words to answer them or excuses to run away from that place without answering them.

See some commom Q's........................

A small kid is asked what he would become when he grows up?
"Tell me cutie baby,would u become an engineer or a doctor when u grow up?"
The poor kid even doesn't understand what the Q. is about and answers it as said by his parents.

As soon as the kid is in school & even as his college studies are about to complete Q's about his job surfaces.If he is lucky enough to find a job that's great, but if not the questioning torture welcomes him where ever he goes.
"Dear,what about your job trails?My uncle's cousins daughters brother-in-law got it in some company.Why don't u try there? Contact some Mr.X.He may help you etc etc."
The poor chap hides himself under his bed & never even dare to attend any family function or get together.

As he successfully finds a job after alot of struggle,folks around him keep on asking only one question"When are the marriage bells going to ring?? Have u started looking for any marriage
proposal or not?When will u tie the knot?Ever thing has to be done in proper time. Still u didn't find any suitable match!!??i know some proposals etc etc...."
The poor souls has to do a matrix feat to escape answering all these Q's.

At last he finds his soul-mate & they start their happy life.Even as they are just back from their honey-moon,in-laws,uncles,aunts,friends,colleagues,neighbours, milk boy, paper boy,saloon boy,
who not, every one they know feel it as it is their greatest responsibility to ask them only one big Q.& as if it is the only bothering Q in the world
" When are you telling us the good news?Family is not complete without kids.Do some prayers & perform these rituals,consult a doc etc. etc. etc...."
The poor couple doesn't know how to satisfy others with their answers.They helplessly face these Q's & get fed up answering where ever they go and are forced to avoid these people.

See how strange life is.Though we think that we are the boss of our lives but yet it is controlled by the society because society feels that every person here has the moral responsibility to answer to its questions.We have learned to live with it because we are the society & we are nothing without these same people who some times bother us because they are our best friends,our relatives,our well-wishers,our good old neighbours,our childhood friends,our helpful colleagues & most importantly these are the people who feel concerned for us.

So leave behind all their bothering questions by not paying tooooo much attention to it.Just take it lightly because the society is as such.Even u too never knew for how many times u have bothered others with ur questions.

Life is precious & short lived.Take our life into your hands.
Live happily & let others too live happliy.

Friends,

Why can't we be true???
Why can't we be free???
Why are we hypocrites???though we may not agree....

We say we all are one
All humans are brothers & sisters
Then why do bombs & guns make their noises around the world???

"Who is rich & who is poor?
We all are but equal before law"
Isn't this what we said time & again but your heart knows the truth!!!

We say we respect women & care for children
But why is she made a doll for pleasure
And see children work under hot sun in dust???

Why is there a war for power???
Why the quest for nuclear know-how???
Why is terror & bloodshed our neighbour???

Awake! Arise! Let we become WARRIORS
not of power & muscle but of PEACE & LOVE
let's stand up for the cause of real brotherhood